how easy it is to get caught up into trying to figure out the appropriate way to grieve… or for me, I’ve recently realized… it’s what’s the most efficient way to grieve. If this is what I have to do, how do I make sure that I’m healing as much as I can, in as little time as possible, using the most effective methods that consume the least amount of my energy and have the lowest impact on my ability to continue to interact in the world. Another person’s way can’t be my way, as much as I might like to be able to copy someone else’s answers. It’s like having a huge map to a place that I’ve never been before with no roads, certainly no highways, not even clear boundaries…